What is love? How do you define love? When does love happen? How do you show love? How do you know if love is in the air? All these questions make me wonder, do girls (and guys) really truly understand what love is all about, and not just some kind of cheap crush or puppy love?
I have been thinking for the past few days and came up with several definitions that would define love based on past experience (not that i have had that many relationships before...just...experiences lah~)
Is love:
1) About the level of appearances of both parties?
E.g: A girl notices a handsome guy and she goes up to him. The guy, who believes in love at 1st sight, also finds her to be pretty and starts a relationship soon after. Everything else will matter later during their relationship.
2) About mutual understanding between two parties?
By having the same family background/situation, they two parties understand how the other person feels because s/he had experienced it before, and therefore being able to provide solutions, feedback, and consultation. The chemistry works somewhere in between the process and voila, you have "love"!...or is it?
3) Of similar interests?
Having the same sense of humour/movie and music taste/outdoor activities. I would like to refer this as being compatible with each other as it makes it very easy to get along with each other. But does it mean anything more than just "best friends"?
4) Caring for one another?
When one person notices even the slightest of difference in that special someone, could that lead to love? Of course, it must be a 2-way flow because that shows that the 2 of them are actually concerned for one another, thus noticing the differences and/or change of behaviour patterns. Some might say that it is a common thing to care for another as friends, but such minor details such as a change of diet (for example) over the past week/month might be enough to make one realize (because he is always watching her...). How about giving encouragement when the other person is experiencing low self-esteem?
5) Restricted to the financial status of another?
Does love linger around those with the same financial status? Can there be love between the poor and the rich, or somewhere in the middle? Does ego play a role here, or do women only look for rich men to support them in future? What happens if the men is unable to support, can there still be love?
6) One who can bring happiness to another?
Some women prefer men who can provide them with happiness. Happiness in the sense that actions and verbal communications that could provide laughter. Afterall, a happy couple is a healthy couple, right? However, I have experienced making others laugh, but I dont see the connection between us. So, could it be a factor?
7) Developed from a couple who always quarrel?
I have only seen this happen in dramas. Dont know if it could really happen in reality. Please let me know if you experienced such events before as i am interested to know more about it.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
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True, I think that it's what we were raised to think... like my friends' parents won't even let her date any guy who doesn't "seem" to be serious about his education, so they think he's never going to get a job to support a family...very little room for love, you know?
Hmm, that's unfortunate because of her parents' restriction. But love is between the girl and the guy. Parents are just an obstacle here =p
Love is a product of whatever you buy into. Everyone has experienced what they've thought as love only to realize the other party wasn't on board.
Being raised by folks with obscure or conservative values on love will no doubt influence what you think it should be. It's what we see, not what we feel and its backwards.
Broken homes = more times then not unhealthy relationships that involve constant fighting (point 8). Kids who see their parents fight before they understand what real love is automatically gives you a disadvantage.
Unfortunately you say you only seen this in dramas, but a great deal of people struggle with issues just as this. Getting mad at each other for some sort of creature comfort, to know that their partner does care. Their only way to express the emotion. Opposed to the folks who openly express their love for one another. With the the words, I love you.
But then again, is it love;) Just remember love means something different to every single human being, there is no book. A made up word, is it love or is it just attraction turned into happiness.
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